Most students fear the day of their results more than their exam days. It is not the failure or bad performance that bothers them, but it is about the reaction of their parents and others surrounding them which results in the nervous breakdown and anxiety of many a students .Hence the often searched Google item of “How to deal with bad results?” needs to be answered right away.
According to Ajay Phadke, CEO and Founder of ‘Type A Thought’ , students as well as parents should learn how to take their marks or their wards marks in a positive spirit:
For Parents:
- Stay calm or at the least try to show calmness.
- Showing that the children isn’t alone during such a phase is absolutely mandatory. Children can sense the urgency in their parents and often fall prey to their torment or pressure of failure. Lowering the stress level in the parent is a must for the well being of the children in turn. Play a sport or go for a walk to reduce stress.
- Avoid judging the results by focusing on it quantitatively. Often the guilt of not being able to perform top notch torments the children. Supportive Phrases like “I believe in your ability” and similar quotes can lift their broken spirit momentarily at least. It is important that your child realizes that their value to you is not result-dependent.
- Keeping high flying expectations can do more damage than good. People get hurt most when they donot achieve what they aspire. So keeping unrealistic hopes for mediocre students to get the first rank can really prove to be detrimental in the long run. It should be realized that every person has their own canvas and they are talented in one way or the other. Studies is just one aspect. It is far more important that they enjoy and learn whatever they can in the process.
- It is often known that the neighbours grass looks greener. But comparing apples with oranges will never give any fruitful result. A student should be evaluated with his own performance. A steady improvement in ones performance over the years is more correct a measure of his ability and hard work rather than comparing blatantly with that of some high achieving person in the field.
- Concentrate on all aspects of a child’s life. It is not necessary that everyone has to be a master academician. Therefore if a child is good in some other sphere, donot destroy his talent simply by forcing him into getting a few more marks in some exam.
For Students
- An exam will not decide how much important you are to your family. To err is human and therefore a student must remember that he/she is not the only person to let down someone. Instead, learn from your mistakes. Sit down and go through the things where you think you can improve upon. It is a great observation that people who succeed often learn from their past mistake .
- Talking how you feel will not make you look foolish. If you do not find a proper confidante, talk to a professional counselor and let it out. Failing an exam paper doesn’t define the person you are or what you are capable of in some other field.
- The next thing right after a major failure decides how your future attempts will shape upto. If you can recognize your mistakes and start honing your weaker areas then you are up the learning curve which will take you towards an improved performance. But if you stay at your current position comparing yourself to others then brace yourself for another failure.
It is therefore mandatory that students after failure try to jump back into normalcy as quick as possible because as is the saying —every second gone in repentance, is every moment of glory lost.
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